So again, I'm among a group of black women recently and one of them decides she's going to school me on what I need to do to properly wear my hair curly.(It's funny how people want to tell you how to do your own hair. Like you haven't lived with it for years and tried every single product on the market for the past 3 decades.)
Anyway, she puts Motions setting lotion in my hair and rolls it in rods. A half hour later, she takes it out and it looks cute! Two hours later its frizzier then when we started. Ugh. Not that what she did didn't work, its just that I know my hair never stays and I've never found a product that can tame its half-straight half-curly tendencies without weighing it down.
My friend's intentions were good but my larger issue here is that I feel that black women look at mixed women like "projects" sometimes in the hair department, when each of us has a totally different hair type. I guess it's how people with dreadlocks feel when people ask them if they wash their hair? People want to know about the unknown and often (wrongly) assume that mixed hair is easy to manage. I know, I know, there's "mixed chicks" and others out there, but they have yet to work for me. I'll keep trying for now and continue to let my darker sisters have their fun.
